Let's take a close look at the best cloth backups for elimination communication. We will cover diaper backups (or nappies, as some countries call them), as well as cloth training pants. Cloth diapering and EC go hand-in-hand. Even if you plan to practice elimination communication full time, day and night, that doesn't mean your baby needs to literally "go diaper-free".
In our society of carpets, couches, and cars, it is perfectly acceptable to use cloth diapers as backup for elimination communication.
But why are we only going to discuss cloth backups? It's not that it's impossible to practice elimination communication with disposable diapers as backup. I even used a few disposables on my son, like that time he got E. Coli in India. Let's look at the benefits of using cloth back-ups.
Benefits of Cloth Elimination Communication Backup:
- Cloth diapers or training pants allow your baby to feel wet and retain awareness of peeing. There's no magical chemical gel to lock away the wetness.
- Cloth diapering encourages you to change the diaper backup frequently, which helps your baby stay accustomed to the feeling of being clean and dry.
- With cloth back-up it is easier to keep using the same clean diaper or training pants over and over again, as long as your series of catches continues.
- Cloth diapers help your baby to avoid toxic chemicals that are found in some disposable diapers.
- There are also environmental benefits to choosing cloth backup over disposable diapers.
- It is estimated that disposable diapers take 250-500 years to decompose. This means that every single disposable diaper that has been discarded, over the past 70 years during which disposables have been on the market, is still sitting around waiting to decompose.
- If you want to decrease the environmental footprint over the life cycle of your cloth diapers, you can choose unbleached organic fabrics; use clean electricity, such as solar power, for washing; wash full loads; sun dry your diapers; use a laundry detergent with a low environmental impact, such as Eco Nuts; and use your cloth diapers for multiple babies. Buying used diapers or sewing your own are also great options.
Permission to Use Backup While Practicing EC
It's still elimination communication, even if you are using diapers!
As a first time mom, I was so excited to practice elimination communication. I read Diaper Free: The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene by Ingrid Bauer and pictured my baby being clad in just a diaper belt and prefold for most of the day. But once my son was born, I realized that I was scared of explosive newborn poop. I was even scared of baby boy pee, which was capable of arching across the room. I guess that most of us in Western societies share those fears. We like to keep poop and pee hidden away inside a diaper.
If you take the leap and start practicing elimination communication, you will soon become quite familiar with baby poop and pee. And you will also find that it is less messy to catch those bodily wastes in a potty, rather than to wipe them off a baby's bottom. But if you need the security of diapers while easing into elimination communication, that's okay!
You have permission to use diapers as backup for elimination communication. Just make sure to choose diapers that will aid in the process, rather than ones that are so cumbersome they will get in the way of offering pottytunities.
Let's look briefly at the benefits versus the drawbacks of using some sort of backup while practicing elimination communication.
Benefits of using EC backup:
- Misses are less stressful;
- Keeps your home cleaner;
- Helpful while away from home, especially if you are in the car and unable to offer a pottytunity when your baby signals;
- Reassuring when someone who may not be aware of your baby's signals is holding your baby.
Drawbacks of using EC backup:
- Makes you less aware of your baby's signals and eliminations;
- Time consuming hassle to keep removing and replacing backup.
When selecting EC backup, keep these two aspects in mind: 1) The easier it is to remove and replace the backup, the more frequently you will offer pottytunities. 2) The less waterproof the backup, the more aware you will be.
Now let's take a closer look at which types of cloth diapers are practical during each stage of elimination communication.
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Best Cloth Diapers for EC with a Newborn
Considerations when selecting EC backup for a newborn:
- While learning your baby's signals and natural timing, choose backup that allows you to easily tell when it has become wet.
- Choose diapers that are easy to remove quickly. Newborns pee and poop very frequently and may signal right when they need to eliminate.
- If you are not catching all of the watery poops, gussets can help contain the poop.
- Your baby can lay on a wool puddle pad either while naked or while wearing a cloth diaper without a cover. Enjoy this phase before mobility!
Cloth diaper stash for EC with a newborn:
- 36 absorbent cloth diapers.
- I often hear that newborns use about 12 diapers per 24 hours. When my son was less than 3 months old he would go through about 20 cloth diapers per day, and that was along with catches in the potty! During the newborn phase, EC'ing families may actually use more diapers than non-EC'ing families, since we strive to change the diaper as soon as it is wet.
- An alternative to purchasing cloth diapers is to use a cloth diaper service, which provides and washes cloth prefold diapers. You will still need your own stash of waterproof diaper covers.
- 4-6 waterproof diaper covers.
- If you are using wool covers with fitted diapers, after a pee miss the cover can be air dried and reused. Start with a minimum of 4 wool covers.
- If you are using PUL covers with prefolds, they can be wiped clean after a pee miss. Start with a minimum of 6 PUL covers.
- Diaper belts and prefolds can be used from birth through toddlerhood.
- Most newborn sized fitted diapers are intended for 0-3 months.
Newborn Backup: Diaper Belt with Cloth Prefold
If you are fine allowing your baby to be naked during diaper-free observation time, you can prepare an area by laying down a wool puddle pad; covering it with an absorbent blanket; and placing a cloth prefold right where your baby's bottom will rest.
If you are not okay with allowing your baby to be completely bare-bottomed, you can add a prefold cloth diaper between your baby's legs and secure it in place with a diaper belt. See our cute baby doll demonstration above.
Benefits of using a diaper belt and prefold as EC backup:
- Prevents baby boy pee from spraying across the room;
- Can tell when wet for learning signals and natural timing;
- Quick and easy to change.
Cons of using a diaper belt and prefold as EC backup:
- Doesn't stay in place as well as other options, such as fitted cloth diapers;
- A poop explosion may escape out of the sides of the prefold.
Choose the size of prefold diapers depending upon how you plan to use them. If the prefolds will only be worn with a diaper belt, its nice to have a large size, so more of the prefold sticks out above the belt. If your baby will also wear the prefolds under a diaper cover, choose just the right size, so the diaper will be trimmer.
For a more complete outfit, EC Wear offers coordinating L'il Baby Chaps and rECtangles, to wear along with a diaper belt and cloth prefold diaper.
Newborn Backup: Fitted Cloth Diapers
Fitted cloth diapers are another excellent choice when practicing elimination communication with a newborn. They can be worn at home without a cover, so you can see right away when they are wet. You can add a waterproof diaper cover over the cloth prefold for leaving the house. If you plan to use wool covers, get at least two covers so you can alternate and let one air out while you are using the other one.
Pros of using fitted cloth diapers as EC backup:
- Gussets contain liquid newborn poop;
- When fitted diapers are worn without a cover, you can tell right away when they are wet;
- More absorbent than training pants and available in smaller sizes;
- Thinner than prefolds when worn under a diaper cover.
Cons of using fitted cloth diapers as EC backup:
- Fitted diapers are one of the more expensive styles of cloth diapers.
- Newborn size fitted diapers will only fit for a short time (0-3M).
Despite the cost and only being able to wear them for a few months, I still think fitted diapers are worth it. Anything to make the newborn stage easier! You can reduce the cost by purchasing used fitted diapers or sewing your own.
Fitted diapers with Aplix or Velcro closures are easier to remove and replace than ones with snaps, but they are harder to find.
Loveybums offers organic cotton fitted diapers with Aplix, plus wool wrap diaper covers with Aplix. If you are going to use wool diaper covers during the newborn stage, the wrap style is easier to put on your baby than the pull-on soaker style.
The Cloth-eez Workhorse Fitted Diaper is a more economical option. A snap version is available on Amazon, but you can also order an organic cotton version with no closure directly from Green Mountain Diapers.
Best Cloth Diapers for EC with a Crawling Baby
Considerations when selecting EC backup for a crawling baby:
- Crawling babies don't like to stay still for diaper changes.
- Waterproof backup can be helpful during this stage. It's hard to always notice your baby's signals and offer the potty when your baby keeps crawling away from you.
- Once your baby is eating solid foods, it is likely that he will poop less frequently. Poop will also be less watery. It is common to catch most of the poops in the potty during this stage.
Cloth diaper stash for EC with a crawling baby:
- 24-36 absorbent cloth diapers.
- 4-6 waterproof diaper covers.
- This category of EC backup is intended for any time after the newborn phase, so 3-12M.
- These types of cloth EC backup work especially well from the crawling stage, until walking begins.
Crawling Baby Backup: Flaparaps
Flaparaps are a drop-flap diapering system developed by Born Ready Jenn, specifically to meet the needs of EC'ing families. The front of the diaper is attached to the elastic waistband, while the back of the diaper tucks under the elastic waistband. When it is time to offer a pottytunity, you can simply pull down the back of the Flaparap, and hold it off to the side. After the pottytunity, tuck the shell back into the waistband. When there is a miss, you can easily remove the wet pad and replace it with a dry one, while the Flaparap shell stays securely attached to your baby's waist. It's a similar design to the discontinued EcaPants, which dropped down from the front.
Flaparaps are made in the U.K. and ship worldwide from the Born Ready website.
There are wool Flaparaps shells available, and new organic cotton pads may be coming soon!
Pros of using Flaparaps as EC backup:
- Flaparaps are MADE for babies doing elimination communication;
- The convenient design will encourage you to offer frequent pottytunities;
- You can change the pad while a mobile baby is crawling or standing;
- Trim fit allows your baby a full range of movement;
- One-size-fits-all (since they come with two sizes of belts), so you can use them throughout your baby's EC journey;
- Convenient for nighttime EC for multiple reasons: you can change the pad without waking your baby, there is no Velcro or snaps to make loud noise; and the Flaparap stays attached to your baby, so you won't lose it in the darkness.
I'm sold! If I get the chance to practice elimination communication again, I would order 4 wool Flaparaps shells; 4 newborn/small belts; 4 toddler belts; 16 small pads; and 10 large pads. I would probably use Flaparaps in conjunction with either two wool diapers or two gDiapers, for times when I need more absorbency than Flaparaps offer or I am unable to change the wet backup immediately.
Jenn wrote a helpful Flaparaps FAQ section, where she explains how many Flaparaps you might need. She also has a What's Happening with Flaparaps section that explains the delay with the organic cotton pads and the manufacturing steps involved in making Flaparaps. As a small business owner, I understand the costs involved in having Flaparaps manufactured in the UK, as opposed to mass produced cloth diapers made in China.
Cons of using Flaparaps as EC backup:
- Since the outer shells are waterproof, you may not be able to tell immediately when your baby has a miss.
- The pad should be changed right away after a miss, so the moisture does not start to wick through. This is not the best backup option for times when you know you will not be able to offer the potty or change the backup frequently.
- They may not contain runny newborn poop very well. However, I have heard from a couple people that Flaparaps make pottytunities so convenient that they hardly have any misses!
Crawling Baby Backup: gDiapers gPants
gDiapers or gNappies are the type of cloth diaper backup that we used most of the time for our son. gDiapers consist of an outer cotton gPants; an inner waterproof nylon pouch; and the type of absorbent insert of your choice. gDiapers can be used with cloth inserts, cloth prefolds, or disposable inserts (which can be composted if only peed on, or flushed down the toilet).
Pros of using gDiapers as EC backup:
- The Velcro tabs make gDiapers easy to remove and replace, especially while holding your baby in one arm.
- You can use various absorbent options inside the gPants (cloth inserts, prefolds, biodegradable/flushable inserts).
- The pouch holds the insert in place when you remove the diaper. This is especially helpful when removing the diaper in a public bathroom stall, so the insert doesn't fall on the floor.
- The outer cotton gPant is comfortable against your skin while holding your baby.
- The waterproof nylon pouch in the gDiapers makes them more breathable than PUL diaper covers.
- They are cute! I liked to let my son show off his gDiapers, instead of covering them with clothing.
Cons of using gDiapers as EC backup:
- Watery newborn poop tends to get on the nylon waterproof pouch, so that it needs to be washed. But you can switch out the waterproof pouch and keep using the outer cotton gPant if it wasn't soiled. gDiapers does make a newborn size diaper, so those probably work better during the newborn stage than the size small gDiapers that I used.
- Very bulky between the legs if you use cloth prefolds inside.
- Need to set the diaper down somewhere while offering the potty, as opposed to a drop-flap design.
- Since they are waterproof, you won't be as aware when your baby eliminates.
I started out with 7 small gPants (8-14lbs), which was more than enough. I also had an extra set of 6 snap-in waterproof pouches. Once my son outgrew size small, I bought 4 medium gPants (13-28 lbs), with an extra set of 6 snap-in pouches. We never needed to use size large gPants.
At my husband's insistence, we hired a cloth diaper service which provided and washed cloth prefolds. The cloth prefolds were not the best option to pair with gDiapers, since they made the diaper quite bulky.
For the most part, I loved using gDiapers, especially once we were catching all of the poops in the toilet. They just weren't great for the newborn watery poop phase, especially before I started offering the potty.
I never figured out the perfect cloth insert to use with gDiapers. I didn't try the gDiapers brand of cloth inserts, since they are made with polyester (along with hemp/cotton). There are quite a few options of cloth diaper inserts available on Amazon these days. A 13" x 5" organic cotton/hemp insert would probably work. Or you could sew your own inserts out of your favorite fabric.
Crawling Baby Backup: Loveybums-in-Ones
When I was looking for a cloth diaper backup for my son, I was hoping to find something that functioned like gDiapers but was all-natural. I wasn't able to find something that fit that description at the time, but now I have! Loveybums-in-Ones (LIO's) consist of a wool wrap cover and a snap-in absorbent cloth diaper. Be sure to select a particular size on the LIO's listing to find the version with Aplix closure. You can order extra snap-in diapers for less than what a complete fitted diaper would cost. The cover portion of the LIO's can also be used over fitted diapers, so you could use a combination of both snap-in and fitted diapers.
Pros of using Loveybums-in-Ones as EC backup:
- LIO's would be awesome for nighttime EC! Since the cover and absorbent diaper stay attached, you don't have to worry about misplacing an insert in the dark.
- They would also be great for EC away from home, especially in situations where you know you won't be able to change the backup immediately, like long car rides. If you remove the LIO's in a public bathroom stall, you don't have to worry about the insert falling on the floor.
Cons of using Loveybums-in-Ones as EC backup:
- LIO's would be bulkier than Flaparaps
- They are an expensive option. You can look for used LIO's in the Loveybums B/S/T group.
I would probably opt for 2 LIO's to use at times when I need more absorbency than Flaparaps provide.
Best Cloth Training Pants for EC with a Toddler
Considerations when selecting EC backup for a toddler:
- Toddlers want to be independent and mimic adults.
- There is no need for side snaps or Velcro if you are catching all of the poops in the potty.
Cloth training pants stash for EC with a toddler:
- 6-12 pairs of trainers, depending upon typical number of misses per day and how often you wash them.
- This category of EC backup works well from the time your child is walking, so around 12M.
- Once your toddler is an EC graduate, there will be no more need for training pants.
Pros of using cloth training pants as EC backup:
- Thin training pants allow for more freedom of movement than bulky diapers.
- Once your child can stand and walk, they can help push down and pull up their training pants.
- Your toddler can actively participate in changing into a clean dry pair after a miss.
- Training pants allow your child to stay standing up during the changing process.
- Training pants look and feel more like underwear than diapers.
- Training pants provide peace of mind when there are misses, in contrast to puddles on the floor or couch, which can cause you frustration.
- You can tell right away when non-waterproof training pants are wet.
Cons of using cloth training pants as EC backup:
- Your toddler may treat the training pants as a diaper and eliminate in the training pants instead of the potty.
- Your toddler would be more aware of peeing if wearing underwear or going commando than when wearing training pants.
- Clothing and furniture can still get wet while wearing non-waterproof training pants.
I personally found that training pants helped take away the stress and allowed me to practice EC in a more relaxed manner.
Toddler Backup: Under the Nile Organic Cotton Training Pants
Starting from size 12-24 months.
Pros of Under the Nile Organic Cotton Training Pants:
- They are made from organic cotton.
- They absorb a pee miss well.
Cons of Under the Nile Organic Cotton Training Pants:
- I wish they started from smaller sizes.
- The leg holes are not very snug.
Toddler Backup: Tiny Trainers
Starting from size 6-12M.
Pros of Tiny Trainers:
- They are the smallest training pants available.
- They come in white and other gender-neutral solid colors.
Cons of Tiny Trainers:
- There is no organic version.
Wool Soakers or Shorties with Training Pants
Non-waterproof cloth training pants have the benefit of allowing you to see right away when they are wet. But on the flip side, that means that any clothing worn over the training pants will get wet when there is a miss. The solution? When you leave the house, have your toddler wear a wool soaker, shorties, longies, or skirtie over the cloth training pants.
Wool is amazing for elimination communication. The lanolin in wool makes it water repellent, but wool can also absorb excess liquid. Lanolin neutralizes urine, so rather than needing to wash a pair of wool shorties each time they get peed on, you can simply hang them up to air dry, and re-use them again later. Once you notice the wool is no longer repelling water, it's time to wash and lanolize it again. One great trick for extending the time between washes is to add a wool booster from Little Bunny Bear inside a wool soaker. If there is a miss you can change out the booster and keep using the same soaker.
Wool is naturally breathable, so it's good not only in cold weather, but also in hot weather.
When you buy wool bottoms its like you are getting two in one: a waterproof cover and a piece of clothing. And interlock wool can be super cute!
For the newborn stage, I recommended a wrap style wool cover. But once your little one is wearing training pants, it's perfect to push down the training pants and a wool soaker all in one motion.
I love the wool interlock shorties I bought from Little Green Honu. For a girl, the interlock wool bubble shorts from RainyDayWoolies on Etsy would be adorable! Or you could opt for a Disana Knitted Wool Cover.
Creating a Cloth Diaper Stash for Elimination Communication
My values when creating a cloth diaper stash for EC backup include:
- Convenience and ease of use;
- Natural or organic materials;
- Incorporate wool as much as possible;
- Support small businesses.
Sample Cloth Diaper Stash for EC Backup
Here is an example of the type and number of cloth backups you could have in your stash for each stage of your EC journey: newborn, mobile baby, toddler, and EC graduate. The age ranges are just an approximation, as our babies all progress at their own pace.
Cloth Diaper Backup Stash for Newborn (0-3 months):
- (1) Wool PuddlePad
- (36) Reusable Cloth Baby Wipes
- (12) Cloth Prefold Diapers
- (2) Wool Diaper Belts, size newborn
- (24) Organic Cotton Fitted Diapers with Aplix, size newborn
- (4) Wool Wrap Diaper Covers with Aplix, size newborn
Approximate cost for 0-3 months: $750*
*The Loveybums newborn organic cotton fitted diapers with Aplix closures are the most expensive item on this list, at approximately $480 for 24 diapers. A less expensive option are organic Cloth-eez Workhorse Fitted Diapers with snaps, which would cost approximately $168 for 24 diapers. You can also spend less by sewing your own fitted diapers. My main reason for choosing fitted diapers is that they work well to contain newborn poop while using wool diaper covers. You could skip the fitted diapers all together and opt for more prefold diapers to use with PUL covers.
Cloth Diaper Backup Stash for Mobile Baby (3-12 months):
- Flaparaps: (3) wool shells, (12) small pads, (6) large pads, (3) newborn/small belts, and (3) toddler belts
- (2) gDiapers gPants, size medium
- (6) gDiapers Pouches, size medium
- (12) Cloth Inserts for gDiapers or sew your own inserts
Approximate cost for 3-12 months: $310
Approximate cost for first year: $1060
Cloth Training Pants Backup Stash for Toddler (12-24 months):
- (6) Tiny Trainers, size 12-24M
- (6) Under the Nile Training Pants, size 12-24M
- (4) Wool soakers, shorties, skirties, or longies
Approximate cost for second year: $330
Underwear Stash for EC Graduate (24-36 months):
Approximate cost for third year: $80
Grand total cost for 3 years: $1,470
Of course, there are many ways to create a less expensive cloth diaper stash as backup for elimination communication. This is a top-of-the-line stash, incorporating organic cotton and wool. You could buy some items used or sew some yourself. Many of these cloth diapers can also be resold in buy/sell/trade groups when you are finished with them.
What I like seeing on this price break down is how quickly the cost of cloth backups drops each year. The first year of using cloth as backup for EC may be pricey, but the second year of training pants and wool shorts is much cheaper. And wearing underwear instead of diapers for the third year, saves a bunch of money!
I hope you now feel prepared to create a stash of cloth diapers to use as backup while practicing elimination communication!
If you are still expecting a baby with whom you plan to practice EC, you may want to Create an Amazon Baby Registry and include cloth diapers. The Amazon registry also allows you to add items from other online stores, so you could include specialty elimination communication clothing and supplies from EC Wear, Little Bunny Bear, and Flaparaps.
In my next post, I will provide pointers on how to select and pack a diaper bag for elimination communication.
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What type of cloth backup have you been using, or do you plan to use while practicing elimination communication?